Hwasin: Controller of the Heart
[It's men vs. women now!]
I am talking here. Listen.
I hate men who test women.
- But it's okay for women to do that. - You talk as if nothing matters!
You make us lie.
Let me go! Let go!
- I make her feel that I care about her. - Wow, aren't you proud?
- I am growing tired of you. - I am so done with you.
[A battle has begun!]
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- Please. - Show us the problem!
[Recognizing a problem]
[Kim Kyung Ho, Kahi, Noh Sa Yeon, G-Dragon, Dae Sung]
[Today's place is...]
[A movie theater!]
Today, no matter what... I'll ask Hee Sun to be my girlfriend.
But I feel so nervous...
Hee Sun, Hee Sun, how about going out with me?
No... Hee Sun, what do you think about going out with me?
- Hee Sun... - What?
Oh, it's nothing.
- What were you doing? - Hi.
It's nothing.
I heard the movie is so scary. I am so nervous about it.
- But I am nervous because of you... - What? What were you saying?
No, it's nothing.
- Have some popcorn. - Really? Okay.
Looks delicious.
- What? Do I have something on my face? - Oh, it's nothing.
Oh.
Come on, why do you eat it that way?
Oh, seriously.
I'm thirsty.
- Did you just get a drink? - I did. Drink mine.
- I'll just have one sip, okay? - Here, I'll hand it to you.
- No, I'll do it myself. - What?
[Falling]
Oh my gosh.
What is that?
Who does that?
Oh, I feel so much better.
The movie is starting.
- I'm sorry. - No, it's okay.
- I'm sorry. - No, I don't mind at all.
You're acting strange today. You've been talking nonsense. What's wrong?
- You know, I've always wanted to tell you this... - Yes, tell me.
- Be honest with me, okay? - Okay.
Don't try to be nice and lie to me. Just tell me the truth, okay?
I got it. Tell me already.
Hee Sun...
- I... - Okay, what?
I... I...
I love you.
- What? - How's your size?
- What's that? Don't ever call me again! - No!
No, I meant... Hee Sun!
I meant how about going out with me?
Hee Sun, I meant... what do you thinking about going out with me?
Ah, come on. Come on now!
Okay, everyone.
There are many times when it just doesn't work out after things start to heat up.
That special someone who won't get any closer to you.
The way to make sure that person becomes yours.
I wonder what it will take.
[Hwasin]
Yes, it's a good day.
- GD is the master of the dating game. - Yes, he is.
- I've seen him doing it. - Ah, really?
- You've seen him doing his thing? - Yes.
I have a lot to tell today.
I know GD and Hee Sun have known each other for a long time, right?
What if GD was in this situation?
Please have a seat.
How would you do it?
Have a seat. You're waiting for her.
I'll confess my love. Today I'll do it...
- You're here already? - Granny...
Sorry I'm late.
- I hear this is a great movie. - I heard that too, but...
- I think these are in the way, right? - Ah, that's right!
Wow! That's it!
Let's watch the movie.
[Lying down]
[My God!]
- That's right! - He looks so rich.
So cool, Kwon Ji Yong!
Look at this... this.
He placed his drink further away...
So you...
- Let's do the part where you reach for the drink. - I'll have to lie down straight.
That's what I mean.
- When I looked at this I thought -- - He's a genius.
He knows the subtleties.
All Sa Yeon was looking at was the popcorn. All she wanted was some popcorn.
I don't have any other memories besides that.
I went to movie theaters only in groups.
- How would you have done it, Dae Sung? - Ah, I think...
- It's Dae Sung style. - Looking forward to it.
- I'll pretend we're at a romantic movie. - A romantic movie?
- Not a scary movie? - No.
I just found out about this myself...
I'll confess my love today.
[Same team but such a different vibe.]
- Dae Sung, you're here. Sorry I'm late. - It's okay.
I'm excited.
- Let's watch the movie. - Shall we?
His breathing is...
This is a part of my performance too.
Damn!
- That scared me. What's wrong? - I feel frustrated.
I feel so frustrated.
Touch me here.
Oh my... oh my...
Can you feel it?
When the movie ends...
can you look only at me, not at the movie screen?
[Wow, this is no joke.]
Today's theme is a chance to explore the differences between men and women.
It's the men vs. women special.
Spring is an opportunity for men because women's hearts flutter when spring comes.
It's an opportunity...
And wait a minute...
You are suggesting other men do what you want to do yourself.
Ms. Noh Sa Yeon, I heard you cleared your schedule to see Big Bang today.
Yes, I cleared my whole schedule today.
My... Ji Yong.
[So grateful]
But I heard your husband Lee Moo Song is a big fan of Kahi.
I feel a little annoyed because my rival is here today too.
- No, there are many who like her. - There are.
Of course.
You heard that rumor about Hee Sun, right?
Unlike the rumors, she's very easy-going...
- And she's very honest as well. - Ah, hold it.
What do they say about me?
They say you're so pretty, and you act accordingly.
[Thank you]
[You are welcome]
[Scary women...]
I've never done that, but there was a rumor that I'm pretending to be pretty.
I mean... how could I be pretending?
[Madam Kim is with the flow today, too.]
I am just saying that...
because you react favorably to it.
[GD's face is burning from her comments.]
That made GD's face red.
Cheers.
It's been a while, right?
How did you two become friends?
- When I was a baby-- - When you were a baby?
He really was.
I bought school uniforms for him as well.
- Since I was in junior high school-- - Wow.
That's way before he debuted as Big Bang.
I know so many back-stories about him, but he volunteered to come on the show.
[A huge crisis]
You're out of your mind.
But I know so many back-stories about you too.
[I won't go down alone.]
- Wow, that's cool. - No, it's not fair because...
I am married now.
You two should just expose everything about each other and die honorable deaths.
I'm faced with a choice between Hwasin or a friend of over a decade.
I am choosing Hwasin.
Today's first problem is...
how did you make that special someone your partner?
Today we are going to guess the highest voted answer for men and women.
- It's not a generational thing? - No.
In particular, how men and women do it is totally different.
Their belief systems as well as how they process it are completely different.
I hear you fall in love easily?
[Surprised!]
His heart is open wide like Gwanghwamun Gate.
He is an open man?
Is that true? Do you acknowledge that?
I treat them well if I like them.
To me it's doesn't mean much...
I always tie their shoes for them.
I do it without even thinking about it.
You tie their shoes for them?
- Like they do in the movies. - I do things like that.
I think he is such a nice guy.
To me, it doesn't mean much.
- It comes naturally to you. - Yes, for my girlfriend.
Sometimes you have to take your shoes off at certain restaurants.
On our way out, I bring her her shoes and tie the shoelaces for her.
[I see...]
When he notices that his girlfriend has finished eating
he goes and brings her water and napkins.
He treats them so well.
It's a dating style for servers, right?
[Ask for GD at the entrance.]
When they go out to eat, he gets on his knees and asks, 'What would you like?'
I got new information from someone who is really close to him.
I heard that GD is a master of playing hard to get.
I heard he works hard to make himself look good before he asks her out.
I do something that I don't even notice myself.
When I am in front of women I like...
- I behave very nicely. - He becomes very nice and gentle.
I think I become like that.
His way of speaking changes as well.
When it's just us, he's like this.
He crosses his legs and says, 'How do you do?'
As if he's from Paris.
'Thank you.'
Like this...
- And he doesn't speak much. - I don't speak much.
Instead he shows his affection by doing things for them.
- Oh... - That's charming.
He is romantic that way.
- How is your girlfriend... - I heard she's in a TV drama.
She's never been in a TV drama.
[GD dodges it in one move.]
No, she isn't an actress.
[Hee Sun, please!]
Hee Sun knows all about it and she says his girlfriend isn't an actress.
I am sure you have your power move.
Based on my experience...
- I haven't had too many experiences-- - Yes, you have.
I think ladies like to have a sense of certainty.
I think women are sensitive whether you're just their friend or not.
Before both of us agreed to go out and when we felt some attraction between us
I would have her come to a party.
And when they ask me who she is
I tell my friends she's my girlfriend.
You make an announcement to your friends when she doesn't expect it.
When the status of the relationship hasn't been clearly defined.
For example, I'm hanging out with her and my friend asks me, 'Who's there with you?'
'I'm with my girlfriend', without hesitation.
That's the move that will sweep women off their feet in one shot.
- That's right. - Ah, really?
What if she responds by saying, 'What the hell?'
- But you can sense how she feels, right? - That's true.
[Ah... there's that, too?]
In most cases, women are waiting for men to make the move, right?
When the relationship status is up in the air and he says that, we are like
'Oh, my!' and we feel so touched by that.
On the other hand...
when the relationship status is up in the air and his friends ask him, 'Your girlfriend?'
'No, she isn't. She's just a friend.'
You shouldn't just let that go.
That's the end of it.
That's when we become just friends.
- But you can't be sure about it, right? - That's true. It's a risk as well.
- You were taking a risk, right? - Right.
But I also think saying something like that is a chance to see how she feels about you.
In most cases, the results were favorable.
I'm curious, how was it after you said that?
When you go home, after you've said that.
Why do you seem so interested?
They become very close after that.
It's so much fun.
Before that, we didn't have a clear way of thinking about our relationship.
- But after I said that-- - Did you walk arm in arm with her?
[Moving to the next level!]
Something simple like taking her by her hand.
Since it's official now, you do things that lovers are supposed to do.
Yes, I do the... things that lovers... do...
- Things that lovers do. - Things that lovers do.
I am curious about this.
But if she has an indifferent reaction, it might be embarrassing.
Yes, it would be embarrassing, but
I've never gotten that reaction.
For example, 'What the hell?'
- What if she responds that way? - It could be an overused technique.
'I was just playing,' I'd tell her.
[Ji Yong, he is not playing.]
I have to do something to clear the air when things get awkward.
Wow, he is an expert.
You've got to know how to handle every situation.
Shall we check and see if that's the answer?
'Making an announcement about it in front of others.'
Let's check the answer!
[Out of ranking]
Nobody even suggested that answer.
It's a very unique way.
It's a very good technique.
This is G-Dragon's way.
'Gi Bang.'
[Haha]
I think men definitely use this method.
Don't you feel a little jealous when every girl only shows interest in GD?
- Be honest. - You know... I do.
[Giggle]
- You're being honest. - I do, since I'm a human too.
You give up if she's way more popular than you are, right?
- Yes, I do. - He's so cool that he admits it.
When she's focused on GD, right?
Let's say Hee Sun is interested in him.
Then, I would walk by her a couple of times.
And if she doesn't even look at me
then I give up for sure.
But Dae Sung... doesn't give up.
[Hold it]
I do. I give up.
Kyung Ho, say something.
[Holding silence as GD and Dae Sung are doing quite well]
- You do have a girlfriend, don't you? - I do.
- You do. - Yes.
- Could you tell us... - There's a bit of an age difference.
How many years?
- Must be more than 10 years. - My age is...
- There is a 13-year difference. - See?
Younger?
- Are you thinking about marriage? - Why the sudden...
- It's the first time we've heard about it. - Because we're curious about it.
- We wanted to congratulate you. - Yes.
- Thinking about marriage? - Yes, of course, I'm thinking about it.
This is the first time you're announcing it on TV, right?
It's the first time I've shared it on TV.
She's living and working in Korea, but
since she's a foreigner...
- She's Japanese. - Ah...
- It was intentional. - But still...
That means you met her after a concert, right?
She had no idea I was a singer.
How did you meet her?
The director of a hospital introduced me to her.
[Ah... a blind date...]
That's unusual.
I've never shared this much detail before.
- Did you go to that hospital often? - Yes.
- A dermatologist's clinic? - Yes.
You go to Japan to see a dermatologist?
- No, it's not that. - Oh, no?
These days, many doctors come over from Japan.
That's true.
Because we have far better medical technology.
She was a translator for them.
How do you communicate?
She's amazing at speaking Korean.
Because of that, my Japanese isn't getting any better.
- She was born and raised in Japan, right? - Yes.
She's Japanese but she learned Korean because she loves him.
That's so cool.
How did you two officially become a couple?
It took us so long.
I hate it when someone finds out how I feel about them.
I don't usually approach someone myself.
I didn't even know how she felt about me.
It took a lot of courage for me to ask the director to set up a blind date with her.
After that, it took another six months.
I never even touched her, and we always went to restaurants and movie theaters.
That's all we did.
Even if you didn't hold her hand, I am sure there was a tiny bit of physical contact.
So, because she was a foreigner
I needed to be more cautious. Especially because I didn't want to hurt her.
You know, it could be a very meaningful visual resource later on...
How about sending her a video message?
We shouldn't mention her name, right?
Isn't her name Michiko?
[The name everyone knows, Michiko.]
A popular name in the movies.
There are names like Michiko and Ayako everywhere.
[We somehow decided her name is Michiko.]
Come to think of it, I've never formally asked you to be my girlfriend.
Wow, that's cool.
Confess your love.
First, thank you for trusting me and loving me even though I live in a foreign country.
I promise to always be by your side you so you won't be lonely.
And... I would like us to love each other forever.
Wow, that was a confession of love via video message.
Today's theme is about your power move that makes her yours.
In my case, my first time was...
- Your first time? - No, no.
It would be good for your rating, but you don't have to talk about your first time.
You went and started to talk about your first time.
Let's not take that route.
We would be grateful if you told us about it, but...
I think I've gone out with about eight different ladies.
You don't even date that much?
- Didn't he mean that it's not enough? - Is it?
His face says otherwise.
Once I fall in love with someone, I focus only on that person. That's how I am.
You are talking about your ex-girlfriends when your wedding date is set, right?
[Hee Sun throws a blunt one at him all of a sudden]
No, to guess the right answer, he needs to talk about his past too, of course.
He just gave her a video message less than a minute ago...
It's been such a long time.
I think I often fell in love, but it ended painfully.
The one that I liked always had a boyfriend.
But I didn't want to lose her, so I kept spending time around her.
One day, my friend found out about it.
I had feelings for his girlfriend.
My friend said to me
'I think you have feelings for my girlfriend.'
He told you that himself.
'I think that's why you always come to my parties,' as if he was testing me.
Once he found out about it, I had no idea how to handle it.
Feeling as if you're totally naked.
- A little after that, they broke up. - Oh, they did?
I wasn't even hoping for that.
Later I found out that he broke her heart.
He cheated on her.
It was a party like this one, right?
An occasion where we got together to drink with our friends.
And we switched seats once in a while, right?
I used that as the opportunity.
That's when I sat beside her and listen to her.
Listening to her.
She was crying while talking about it.
I supported her by listening quietly to her dissing him.
- So I-- - 'What a jerk...'
[Indifferent]
Come on, she was reenacting the situation for you.
He declined to play along.
I guess he didn't feel it.
Your second step?
She must not have known I liked her. She needed time to collect her thoughts.
Before the second step, all I did was be supportive.
I think Kyung Ho and GD have two totally different approaches.
To me...
it's far better to handle it the way he did.
I also used to be like Kyung Ho, and I got hurt big time.
After that experience, I couldn't continue doing that.
I started to be more direct about it.
You got hurt using his method?
- So you got hurt-- - Yes.
I also once had secret crush on someone for two years.
Oh... really?
I even confessed my love for her twice, but she rejected me both times.
By the third time, she already had a boyfriend.
The last time, I bought flowers and waited for her in front of her house in the rain.
Oh, my!
On a rainy day, I called her and told her I was waiting for her outside the door.
I waited for five hours.
I was waiting in front of the wrong house.
Oh my, oh my.
- She gave me a fake address. - She gave him a fake address.
- She didn't want me know where she lived. - Oh...
Must have been disappointing...
Wait a minute. So how did it end?
I used a kind of cowardly way in the end.
I just couldn't feel certain about making the move. I wanted to test her, so I...
'Do you want to go on a blind date?' I asked her.
[Ah]
- Was it too cowardly? - It is a passive approach but
a lot of men can relate to it.
- It's a way to make sure-- - Looks like Dae Sung can relate to it.
[Men feel total empathy for it]
And I look at how she reacts when I ask her that question
to see whether she seems to have feelings for me or not.
You can tell, right?
That's when I confess my love for her.
- 'Do you need to go that far?' - [Wow]
After putting her through every test there is.
It's because he's afraid of the pain of rejection.
He is 'Gan Kyung Ho.'
[A master in testing women, rocker Mr. Gan Kyung Ho]
- You're good at naming people. - 'Gan Kyung Ho.'
He keeps on testing women.
You do it that way when you get heartbroken several times. As GD said
I think one of the things women shouldn't do to men is
- keep our hopes alive. - I don't know why women do that.
For example, let's say I am talking with Dae Sung.
She talks about what she doesn't want in men.
'I don't like men like him. I want to marry someone like you.'
She tells me that every time...
and she asks for my phone number and sends me text messages.
But two days later, I go out to meet her
but there is that guy sitting beside her.
[She wanted him all along!]
I heard something like this.
When the woman you are going out with tells you, 'No, don't call me!'
I heard it means it's okay if you wait for me in front of my house.
- That's what I heard. - Right, right.
Men think, 'Okay, I shouldn't call her.'
It means that it's okay to come over and apologize to me.
That's right. He knows a lot about women.
As a woman, I hate men who test women like that.
Me too.
But women don't know when men do that.
Don't women test men just as much?
They know now because we're talking about it.
It's all right when women test men.
Why?
Rather than testing men, as you said before, it's about misunderstandings.
For example, people play drinking games at parties, right?
- As an example. - Yes, yes.
[Such effortless wing motions by GD]
When I play that game, let's say I didn't lose even once.
But I wanted to drink so bad.
I couldn't drink. But I didn't lose on purpose.
When a lady lost the game, I volunteered to drink it for her.
Of course, she would misunderstand it.
- I just wanted to drink. - No, it was your fault.
No, you shouldn't do that.
Was I the one?
You should've done that to someone you liked, then.
Of course she would start wondering.
- What do you think about this, Mr. Gan Kyung Ho? - Gan Kyung Ho.
About the psychology of men...
I think he did it so his prospects would keep their interest in him.
[A clear conclusion]
'I listen to her concerns and problems'
'and at the decisive moment, I test to see how she feels about me.'
Okay, let's check the answer!
[Shoot, shoot, shoot]
[Out of ranking]
I thought Beyonce had arrived.
Dae Sung, why don't you give it a try?
- I... I think-- - What is your power move?
I am not good enough at talking to have a power move.
Not true, you are good at it.
- Actually, I am pretty shy. - Really?
Aren't you a very cautious type, Dae Sung?
I am a very cautious person.
When I observe how Dae Sung is...
He... annoys the girl he likes as if he's a teenager going through puberty.
He plays mean tricks on them.
- Oh, when he was young. - He tells her that she's ugly.
He teases them on purpose.
Hee Sun, what's that on your clothes?
'I accept your humility!' I do this.
[This is how Dae Sung expresses his love]
Oh, this is how you do it.
[Something like this]
Yes, yes.
Wow, aren't you so happy?
I also received new information about Dae Sung from someone who's closest to him.
Who's that person?
Is it Yang Hyun Suk?
No, no, no, not him.
[I am watching you]
I heard Dae Sung just disappears when he falls in love.
I heard he disappears from sight when he's dating someone.
- Is that true? - [Yes I do]
Since you can't be seen, that means you aren't dating anymore.
Yes, when I have a girlfriend, I almost lose a sense of time.
I once went through this...
I once had a crush on someone that I had no chance of going out with.
I knew her phone number but
I had no reason to call her.
And it remained that way.
But I still had feelings for her.
I thought a lot about how I could open a channel of communication with her.
One of the things that I came up with was pretending that I called her by accident.
- Ah! - Oh, that's cute.
- That's cute. - So timid, so timid.
- Sending her a text 'by accident.' - I pretended to call her by accident.
I thought just sending her a text was too timid, even for me.
I decided to call her instead.
Then what?
And I had to write down a script for it because I was so nervous.
I prepared a script for it. For example
He's very detailed.
I set up a scenario where I called my stylist.
'What will I wear tomorrow? This is my schedule. I'll be there at this hour.'
I couldn't talk too much, so I would just talk up to that point.
The important thing is that... you have to start talking before she says 'Hello?'
- You recognize the voice, right? - Without reason or rhythm?
When you look at the screen of your phone
It says '00:00' when they answer the phone.
Right, right.
You don't listen to it. You look at your phone.
You have to look at it to see when it says '00:00.'
'So I wanted to make sure. I am doing this and that and that tomorrow,' I told her.
There was silence for a moment.
And then she was laughing out loud. So I go
'Ah! Ah, I'm sorry!'
And then I hang up. And the reason for it is
because if you talk any longer, she doesn't have a reason to call you back.
You pretend that you are thrown off guard.
I need to hang up so she thinks I did call my stylist.
After that I contact her again. This time via text message.
- That makes you look innocent. - Does it?
- 'I'm sorry.' - Make them think you're nervous.
You shouldn't text her right away.
- Wait 10 minutes. - Make it look like you hesitated.
- So smart. - 'I'm sorry about that.'
[Mr. Gan Kyung Ho learned a technique from an 18-year-old]
So since it started off as a cute mistake --
You send her cute emoticons?
'It's okay,' she replies.
- That's how -- - You open up a conversation with her.
'I guess you're doing something tomorrow?' she replies.
If she weren't interested, she'd write, 'Be careful in the future.'
'Wake up and pay attention!'
Have you ever done something like that?
I've called wrong numbers but I don't use that technique to start conversations.
You know, he doesn't need to because he's not timid.
He just has to say, 'She's my girlfriend.'
If I do that, I get this from them.
I found my own way around it, you know.
Within the same band, there are many approaches.
Right, right.
Based on your perspective, Gan Kyung Ho
I think you might have... used that technique to talk to her...
I think I might have gone through something similar.
How did it go?
[Hesitant]
- Should I talk about... - Sure, talk about it all today.
Since this happened before I started dating her.
[It's all just in the past]
We will place your video message at the end.
I think you could put it right after your previews.
Yes.
I once got caught dating two women at the same time.
[Jackpot]
I think this might be too much...
No, since you let it all go and you're with your current girlfriend now, it's okay.
Wow, at the same time.
She got you by the neck.
- Right. - Yes.
I sent a text message to show that I was interested in her
but I used the wrong name.
- You lost both of them, right? - I did.
Since you made that mistake back then, how about sending her a video message of apology?
Please, stop that. Seriously.
It makes you look magnanimous when you apologize for things like that.
Say 'I am sorry.'
I am so sorry.
You are not that way anymore.
'The power move I use when that special someone won't get any closer.'
'Start a conversation by pretending you called a wrong number.'
Let's check the answer!
[Oh]
I thought I had to use the answer I talked about.
Let's hear Sa Yeon's story this time.
I think it should be from your personal experience.
I cut off any communication with him.
That's how I got to marry him.
I fell in love at first sight when I met my husband.
- Yes, you did. - Yes.
So after a while, I wanted to know everything about him.
I found out he's from America and how he studied music.
My radio program directors made him a regular guest on my show.
- So I got to see him every week. - Was it after his hit song?
- It was before that. - Oh, so this was before his hit song?
I worked on it for two years.
- That's when Sa Yeon was at the top of her game. - Yes, yes.
- And Lee Moo Song was known. - He was totally unknown at the time.
Even when I walked around with him, people didn't know that I liked him.
It was when almost nobody knew him.
It's embarrassing to say this but he never even touched me once for two years.
Because of that I cut off any communication with him.
I did that, but that's when Moo Song called me and said he wanted to marry me.
- Without saying anything else? - Yes, yes.
Because I became totally indifferent to him, he became so scared.
He said when I didn't talk to or see him, he was scared to be alone and so attracted to me.
And he called his mother and said that he wanted to marry me.
His mother gave him the permission.
After you cut off all communication with him, how long was it before he called you?
- About 10 days? - 10 days?
Those 10 days must've been so difficult for Moo Song.
When I saw Moo Song again, he had lost so much weight.
- Because he was in distress? - You know what I told him?
When he asked me to marry him, I did everything a respectable lady should do.
'Give me time to think about it.'
[Bravo Noh Sa Yeon!]
- I have a nickname for her. - What is it?
He's 'Gan Kyung Ho.'
She's 'No Doubt.'
But, I bet... it must've been hard waiting 7 days before giving him your answer.
I thought I was going to die waiting for the seven days to pass.
I really thought I was going to die.
I even hit myself in the mouth.
I was so angry and so upset. It felt like I was waiting seven years.
But Moo Song brought me a wedding ring.
After you received that ring, what happened?
He told me I asked him to give me a week to think about it.
The wedding ring that Moo Song bought me was so...
it was the one thing that he had to spend absolutely everything he could spare on.
It was a thin ring that had a tiny ruby on it.
When I saw that ring, I was so, so happy.
The ring looked so pretty on my hand because it was so thin.
After you received that ring, how did you say yes to him?
I received the ring and we...
- Was that the first time you touched? - Yes, yes.
We kissed.
- Kissed. - Yes, kissed.
I know how to kiss too.
- I learned how. - She learned how.
I felt, this is how love feels.
I had everything at the time, right?
I didn't need anything else at that time.
All I wanted was to be loved forever by a man.
I am still being loved that way.
My turn.
I wonder how I'll look.
'I cease all communication.'
- Let's check the answer!
She's got it.
[First place among women.]
- She is a woman. - It took women to answer it.
They say it's because it takes this kind of stimulation to make them take action.
When she ceases all communication with me, all of a sudden
it makes me insanely curious about it.
And when that happens
for some reason, I can't think of anything but that.
Even after we got married, when she doesn't reply to my text message
- it's hard to focus on anything else. - That's right. Yes, yes.
It's time for men to up your game.
I think the highest voted answer is the one GD has used the most.
- Is it just saying it bluntly? - Yes, that's right.
You just... not doing anything else, you just kiss them.
Or you can embrace them.
Do you show a lot of physical affection?
It's okay to do.
In my case...
I grew up with several older sisters...
so I don't feel inhibited about showing physical affection.
I'm not repulsed by it. I feel at ease about it.
How so?
If something good happens, I hug people.
When you look at hip hop artists, they act like this, right?
Yes, that's how we greet each other.
How did you say they act?
What's up, bro?
- You do act like this, right? - Yes, that's right.
I think hugging is a very comfortable thing to do.
People who are like that do it so comfortably.
Where is the most comfortable place to touch? The hands?
[The most comfortable way to touch?]
[Something like this?]
[Stroking hair]
So, stroking hair.
Or it could be kissing her on the forehead when you say bye.
[GD's urgent tip-off!]
- I heard something about Dae Sung-- - Oh, what are you talking about?
- Tell us. - It's a false rumor.
I'm not sure if it's true or not.
It was before they were going out.
He wasn't sure whether to kiss her on the cheek or on the lips.
He wanted to send her a message that showed he cared about her.
Just before he sent her off.
[Kissing her forehead]
Without even saying a word...
[And finishing with an impactful move!]
It's not that. You need to look cool after you say goodbye.
Yes, three fingers.
After making her think that you're going to kiss her forehead, right?
What if you kiss her lips instead?
- It's too fast, too soon. - I love when he kisses you on the eye.
- To say 'I love everything about you?' - I mean, on the eyeball.
On the eyeball?
Doesn't it cause infection?
Doesn't it cause dry eyes?
I mean kissing on the eye.
Tell us.
- On the eyeball-- - Kissing on the eyeball?
Kissing on the eyelid?
You kiss on the eyeball.
You make contact with the eyeball?
She needs to keep her eye open?
- On the eye-- - So you kiss on the eyelid?
- No, with eyes open... - Right on the eyeball.
- Isn't it bad for your health? - Who kissed you on the eyeball, Hee Sun?
Her eyes are all red.
When something goes into a child's eye, Mom sometimes licks it out, you know?
- Yes, they do. - Moms do that.
- Really? - Yes.
Do you know a physical touch that you consider to be unique?
For me, it's the ear.
On her ear, rather than kissing it
I make a sound like this instead.
- Making a sound. - Since it's close to her ear.
She reacted like this.
I have two of them.
This is something I always do when my girlfriend is sitting beside me.
I work on something while touching her ear.
Why would you?
I don't know why, but I feel calm when I touch ears.
Even in my boys-only school days, there were boys who loved to touch people's ears.
When my girlfriend is next to me, I always touch her ear.
[Makes me happy just thinking about it.]
Dong Yup, you haven't shared the physical touch that you favor.
- It's okay to tell us now. - Yes.
It's okay. Tell us the one you told me yesterday.
What do you mean?
We weren't even hanging out yesterday.
What I like is...
- This is just... - His eyes are getting red again.
His eyes are getting red.
- I can't even show it to you here. - Is he that innocent?
I am good at scratching people's backs.
I am so good at it that you would feel like your body is melting down.
This is something I've done for my friends many times.
When I scratch their backs without even missing a tiny spot...
It makes you feel amazing. It's something you cannot do on your own.
You can't scratch it too hard or too gently.
It has to be just right.
You have to use your... nails in the right way.
And if you scratch them like that, it makes them feel amazing.
And I finish it up by slapping on your back lightly.
It stings a little and it releases everything from your back.
Do you like it when your significant other touches your back that way?
Of course. I taught her how to, and asked her to scratch mine, but it's not as good.
When I did this for my friends
they liked it so much they couldn't even describe it with words.
Why don't you try it on your honeymoon after you're married?
I'll tell you about the best one after we're done filming.
'When saying goodbye, I show physical affection.'
'Showing physical affection.'
Let's check the answer!
[First place for men]
[Showing physical affection out of the blue.]
Doing it out of the blue made first place.
They say to praise women if you want half of their heart to open up to you.
They say if you want to completely open it, then hug them.
When you show physical affection for someone
isn't it your way of showing how special that person is to you?
But for this to work, the other person must also want it.
Yes.
It's a good way to get slapped if you force it or do it just because you want to.
As a man, you should be able to sense how she feels about it.
Showing physical affection is not a one-way street, but a two-way street.
I hope to create miracles of love this year.
Yes!
How does it look when the relationship is broken and over?
- Show us the... - Next problem!
[Recognizing a second problem]
[You discover the problem at...]
[A park]
Sweetie, you are going to end it for sure, right?
Don't worry. I'm sorry that I've let this drag on.
When she comes here, sit there and pretend you don't know me.
Alright, I trust you, okay?
Hee Sun, you are the only one I need.
- Okay? - Yes.
- What's wrong? - I know... but there are people here.
What do you mean there are people around, dummy?
What's wrong?
Oh, there she is.
Yup, you got here early, Yup?
Ah, Sa Yeon... No, it's nothing...
Sa Yeon, there is something I need to tell you.
What's that?
- That you love me? - No...
- We should just get it... - Get it on? Here?
No, no, that's not it.
Let's just do it.
- Let us break... - I brought a gift for you.
I brought you a gift.
I felt so sad watching you walk everywhere, Yup.
Drive this instead.
Also, you might get bored, right?
Then, drive this one instead!
If you still get bored once again...
then, you drive this one instead!
[His current girlfriend is very wealthy]
Cute.
[Hurry and tell her!]
- Don't worry about it. - No, not, that's not it.
- I don't need things like this. - No, don't worry about it.
Let us just break...
Let's just break up--
- Mr. Yoon. - Ma'am.
Honey, I noticed that you seem to be very low on energy.
I brought you lunch.
Eat this and feel better.
Why a lunch box all of a sudden?
Open it. It comes from my heart.
On the first level, there are 10,000 won bills.
[Jackpot]
On the first level, there are 10,000 won bills.
On the second level, there are 50,000 bills.
On the third level, there is a credit card with unlimited credit!
- Sa Yeon... - Yes?
[The fire of love ignites again.]
Hey, stop it!
Shin Dong Yup, what are you doing?
Hee Sun, I'm sorry... I don't think I can break up with her.
Who's that lady? Who is that?
I don't know. I don't know.
Today, I am going to go look at a building.
- Shall we? - Yes!
Unbelievable!
[And he picks up the cash...]
The relationship you have ended 12 times already in your head.
You delayed it because there was something that stopped you from ending it, right?
The reason that stopped you from ending a relationship.
What was that reason for you?
Yes!
Yes, it's Hwasin, a master of hearts and minds.
The question is, 'What's holding you back from ending that relationship?'
Please guess answers that were voted most times by men and women.
They say romance begins as a romantic comic and ends as a makjang drama.
Something that started so beautifully could end in such a shameful way.
Let's get to the bottom of how romance can end.
If you were in the situation that my character was in...
don't you think you have second thoughts about ending it?
When I read the script, I wondered why you wanted to go to Hee Sun instead.
Because new opportunities open up for you.
Dae Sung, how about Sa Yeon when she buys you an apartment and cars?
Yes, of course, my love for her would grow.
Because an apartment and cars are expressions of love.
It's love because they are warm.
You don't even need a furnace.
- The heat of the engine keeps you warm. - Yes, it's always warm.
What holds you back from ending that relationship?
Please guess the reason why it holds them back.
You may not know this, but I have a timid side to me.
- It's hard for me to say, 'Let's end it.' - Oh my gosh.
I feel guilty about saying it because of...
the little things we shared, you know?
Let's say we were watching Tokyo Tower.
I am watching the movie with her.
I tell her that it might be nice to be on the Tokyo Tower next year on the same day.
Then she would, of course, agree to it, right?
Feeling guilty... that I won't be able to keep that promise?
- Because it's a promise you made? - Yes.
I just found an important clue.
I want to be the same guy--
Are you dating someone from Japan?
Japan? No, I'm not.
I know you perform in Japan, but why does it have to be Tokyo Tower?
Why not Namsan Tower?
Yes, it could've been Namsan Tower or 63 Building. So, why Tokyo Tower?
There is a movie titled 'Tokyo Tower.' There is 'Tokyo Tower.'
Michiko.
Are you watching me?
- Yes, because of things like that. - Things like that.
What kind of promises do they make these days?
Men often promise that when they make it big they will do this and buy that for us.
But they change, you know.
You've made a lot of promises like that, right?
- Yes, I did. - And you made a lot of romantic promises too?
'I'll always be there with you.' 'I'll be your last man.'
I hate that I changed.
From a broader perspective, it's just part of meeting new people.
And doesn't it change you dramatically when you meet someone so beautiful?
- We do... - That's the problem.
I heard this from someone, that men are most...
- What about? - What about men?
When they asked men what kind of women they like the most, they replied...
'New women.'
No, it's not like that. It's not--
The most beautiful woman to them is the one they are meeting for the first time.
Yes, it's the woman they are meeting for the first time.
He admits it.
- Is it? - Why are you asking me?
But you just exhaled in a way that you've never done before.
Yes, the woman they meet for the first time. Kyung Ho's breathing just got faster.
So I asked my husband
'Why do men change after they get married?' I asked him.
It was hard for him when 'The same woman waited for him at the same hour in the same house
looking the same way everyday.'
I am just joking. I was just trying to be funny. Don't make my husband into someone bad.
[My husband is the best.]
When do you think men change after they start dating?
You mean the time it takes for the magic of love to wear off for me?
I think it lasts about two to three years.
- It lasts long. - He is a nice guy.
That's very long.
- Oh, he is a good guy. - He really is.
When you are blinded by love, what promises do you make to her?
You talked about Tokyo Tower.
Yes, I talked about Tokyo Tower.
When you were walking with her on Shibuya street.
'I'll shout your name on Shibuya street next year.' like this.
Men promise things like this.
- It's childish but-- - 'I am going to kiss you on this street.'
- Right. - 'I'll kiss you in public.' like this.
Kissing in public?
- What promises have you made? - I don't make promises.
- He really is an expert. - Everything he says sounds cool.
'I don't make promises.'
The way he speaks is deep, you know.
What do you mean when you said you don't make promises?
- Ah... - Does it mean you could change?
It's because nobody knows how things will turn out.
That's true... and the reason why I don't make promises is...
rather than making promises that I cannot keep...
it might be better to do the best that I can in every moment.
'Doing the best he can in the moment.'
- He's similar to me. - In what way?
Because I don't want them to expect things from me once I start making promises.
[What...?]
[DEFCON one alert]
Every time, the kids these days...
[Let's start with an apology.]
I am sorry.
There are too many special days.
Once I start to acknowledge those days, it just doesn't seem to end.
They are like the promises that I cannot keep, especially when I am busy with work.
That would create bigger disappointments, wouldn't it?
Then, what's the biggest promise you kept?
Let's talk about the promises you've kept.
The one I kept...
There was one where...
'I'll be with you whenever you are sick.' I told her.
- There was this one time. - Did she get sick?
- Did you skip a TV appearance? - No, it's not that.
It was the day we had to go to Japan but
my girlfriend got so sick that day.
But we had a schedule set up for the day after.
It was alright to catch an early morning flight on the next day.
So I pretended that I lost my passport.
- Seriously? - Seriously?
- Did you find that out just now? - Yes.
I pretended that I lost my passport and spent that day beside my girlfriend.
[Ah... that's what happened...]
- Ah, that's so cool. - GD seems quite irritated.
At the same time, it didn't change our work schedule.
[I think it negatively influenced Ji Yong?!]
You were pushing it, but you kept both personal and professional agreements.
I caught two rabbits at once.
He didn't mean anything bad by it, you know?
Right...
- How do you feel... - It's alright.
I think I'll lose mine soon as well.
[That's cool. The leader of Big Bang.]
'Because I didn't keep the promise that I made from my heart.'
Let's check the answer!
[Out of ranking]
It was out of ranking.
I think this TV program is very unfair to me.
It's out of ranking?
Still it was an innocent answer, and beautiful.
Not being able to end it because he felt guilty about not keeping his promise.
So innocent.
Kyung Ho, you said you were heartbroken because
you were diligent about remembering the special days.
I even thought there was something wrong with me
because it happened three times in a row.
For whatever reason, when they date me, their family gets into a financial crisis.
Wow, so you gave them a big one.
- You paid the debt for them. - Maybe I am being too honest?
- No, no, it's okay. - Then what happened?
I lose all my defenses when they cry in front of me.
There were times that I got involved with their family in order to help them out.
But later on...
- You were helping them out. - Yes.
So, that means you were giving them money?
- Paying their debts. - Paying their debts?
When you talk with them, you naturally find out if they are going through a hard time.
Did you ask them if they were going through something?
She would never say it but because I kept noticing it.
- They made you notice it. - They make you notice it.
They didn't it say it out loud but...
You had to ask her because you were probably holding hands and about to kiss, but she goes
- 'Ah...' - 'What? What's wrong?'
They say, 'It's nothing.'
It's partly your fault as well.
Honestly, I am easily fooled.
I tend to be dragged into it even when I know what's really happening.
Rather than looking for someone who's lively, positive and successful...
he kind of looks for someone who's not
since you are sympathetic and kind-hearted.
He tests women a lot but he doesn't do that with things that matter.
That is true.
I fall for every kind of sob story.
- Since you've sent many video messages... - [Again?]
- To her? - A video message.
To those who hurt--
- Can I say it like that? - Sure.
After you hurt me, did your bank account get bigger?
[Feels so much better.]
Thanks to you... after that incident...
I've become...
much stronger.
Because of it... I have someone better than you who loves me.
Tell her that you'll invite her to your wedding.
That's crazy.
[Now he can laugh at those break ups.]
The thing that stopped me from ending my marriage was
my pride.
So many think didn't think of our marriage in a positive light.
I am far more gentle than before but I used to be kind of rough.
'Let see how long it lasts.' 'They can't stay together.'
Someone bet actual millions of won on our marriage breaking up soon.
They were betting...
I heard some people bet money that we'd last only six months.
And so many other people said that our marriage wouldn't last.
I wanted to prove them wrong.
I was fighting against the doubts like that against myself.
That made me very patient with the marriage.
Did it feel like people were dishonoring your marriage?
I hated when people treated us that way.
Around that time, a man marrying someone older was --
It's the first time it happened.
- Never happened before. - Was it?
- Yes. - At the time, Noh Sa Yeon was a superstar
but her husband wasn't very well known at the time.
I hated when people thought as if our marriage meant nothing.
I thought about finding the person who talks badly of our marriage and doing this to them.
I didn't do it, but I was fighting against their looks and facial expressions that suggested it.
Not only me, but I think Moo Song also endured it the way I did.
A sense of pride helped stop me from ending the relationship.
When you got married, because you were a superstar, many people talked badly of it.
- Yes, I think we both went through it. - What did they say the most?
'Let's see how many years it lasts.'
And, 'It's marriage once they hold a wedding.'
- Marriage announcement... - Did you know there were rumors like that?
The rumors started after it was on the news. Don't they tell you?
But who tells you that? Don't they usually not know about it?
Reporters who were close to me told me.
There are people who relay that information but it's not a good way to find out about it.
- There are people who tell you about it. - Yes, there are.
People do talk about you when you get married.
Because people who like to gossip make it sound worse.
Shall we check your answer, Sa Yeon?
'Feeling a sense of pride or wanting to prove the doubters wrong.'
Let's check the answer!
[Out of ranking]
It was out of ranking.
- How long have you been married? - It's been 20 years now.
When you get to my age and 20 years into the marriage
the love you lost comes back.
It comes back in a different form of love.
So I hope young people could be a little more patient.
You may think that it wasn't a good decision to marry when you're angry but
that's not true.
A person's love always changes, but love can come back.
Because you have so much passion, you might be --
It's been a while since I got married, as well.
- How long? - Seven years.
Seven years?
This should be the year. Third, fifth, seventh and ninth year.
Three, five, seven and nine. Oh, three, five, seven and nine.
It was the first, third, fifth and seventh year for me.
It started on your first year?
For me, it was the third, fifth, seventh and ninth year of marriage.
When it happened, I had no idea --
It's different for everyone.
How about yours?
One, two, three, four, five, six and seven.
[You're killing me.]
I think it was the third, fifth, seventh and ninth years.
Third and fifth months.
I was wondering why you chose such a big unit of measurement.
So you count by the month...
I am worried about next month.
The second half.
For me, I think it's a good idea.
At first you're always together.
In the beginning, stay close to each other for about a year or two.
- You stayed close for too long, right? - Yes, six years...
When we started talking about marriage, it just sounds horrible.
That's right.
In my case, I've always thought that men shouldn't ask women to break up.
It's better to hear it from them, but if we were to say it--
You think it's too cruel?
Then how do you end it?
- The alternative is far worse... - That's true.
I make sure that she tells me that first.
Right.
Ji Yong, so the way you do it is?
- Tell them you're sick? - I want to be a less of a bad guy.
You tell them you are sick and busy?
- Yes... - And talking less with her?
It does... because I am sick.
I have to remain sick.
I am sure she brings you medicine in the beginning, right?
Because she's concerned.
'No, I need to be alone and I have to sleep.'
And one of the things that men, who are bored of being married, does is this...
'Yeah...' They respond in single words.
'Yeah, watching TV...'
- Oh, like that? - In the beginning, 'Yes, I am watching TV.'
After a while, 'Yeah, watching TV...'
[It drains the person who's talking to them.]
- 'What are you watching?' - 'Hwasin, Hwasin...'
By doing this, I'm sure they know what's happening.
- Did she also? - She did.
- Not at first. - Because you told me you were sick...
'Is it because you don't want to see me?' What if she asks you...
'No, I miss you...'
'Do you want me to be there?'
'You might catch my cold...'
This sounds like he's worried about me.
- What if this continues to-- - So tactless.
I would like to think that he's worried about me.
I think men are kind of mean and cowardly in that--
- The men who are bored of the relationship. - True.
I think I waited for her to make a mistake.
[What...?]
What he is talking about now?
They are such experts in breaking up.
Doesn't everyone start to control the other when they start dating?
They tell you the things they hate about you?
Doing things that I told her not to do.
'I told you not to drink more than this.'
'I told you to call me if you were going to be late.'
And she knows that he will go to a staff party that offers alcohol.
She knows he loves to drink.
'As soon as you sound drunk...'
Something like that? Like that?
It takes more than once.
'It seems you're beyond hope.'
Jong Shin's acting is great today.
'You are beyond rescue, aren't you?'
[It would be a cruel break up for women.]
Is it too cruel?
Do you know what is the easiest way?
You ask them for money.
Really?
Say that something happened in your family.
If you ask women for money, they drop you just like that.
[Feels it in his heart...]
Then, could it be that they asked you for money because they wanted to break up with you...
but you gave them money anyway?
Oh, so tactless.
He lost everything. He lost money and love.
Women end relationships differently, don't they?
Women?
- Yes, they do. - I don't think they drag it out.
I think they tell it straight out.
'I am so sick and tired of you!'
That's a scene from a TV commercial.
You wanted to say that all day, right?
'Acting mean toward her or people around her.'
Let's check the answer!
[First place for men]
Wow, that's the answer?
Yes, that's right. I can totally relate to that.
Women tell it straight out, but men don't.
Men are courageous when they start in the beginning
- but want to avoid ending it. - That's right.
That's so cowardly.
That means if ladies think they're the ones who ended it, that could be an illusion, right?
In my case, if my man was to pretend to be sick because he got bored
then I would ask to break up, right?
But if the man started to date another woman just after the break up...
- wouldn't it bug you? - I would be so angry.
Right? If he dates another woman as if he was waiting for it.
I would feel offended even if I was the one who ended it.
But everything was in the plan all along...
- That he was sick... - [Me?]
- Yes, being sick and busy. - Yes.
[She was talking about me...]
I think men enjoy feeling as if they are the lead character of a tragedy.
They get drunk and sing sad songs.
- Feeling as if the song is for them. - Right, right.
When women look at that, that makes them fall for him.
- Yes... - That's true...
That's how the earth keeps on spinning.
The earth is spinning very well because of it.
Do you end it by meeting with her in person or talking to her on the phone?
I couldn't say it in person.
I phoned him as well.
I tried to talk in person when we met for the last time.
You could end it by calling but...
I think it might be good to end it by talking in person.
It is a hard way to go about it.
I couldn't get myself to do it before but...
having done it, I think that's a little better of a way to go.
In my case, I used to end the relationship in person in the beginning but...
talking about it in person made it become like a drama.
He would cry and say, 'Thank you for the memories,' and it started to feel like a drama.
I think it was a little weird.
There are instances where that's when the love rekindles again.
I think the purpose of taking some time apart is to hope for a better future, right?
After spending some time apart, if you still feel you need be with that person
I think that allows for an even deeper relationship.
And if doing that doesn't change anything in them, I think it's better to separate.
I don't know if I should say this on air, but...
You are going to say it anyway.
Things that hold your ankle back.
Ankle...
When Dong Yup put it like that, he means something way out there.
No, as Sa Yeon mentioned...
- Marital compatibility. - 'Inner-compatibility.'
Because it's good for them.
Sometimes I wonder, 'How did they become a couple?'
'How could they be a couple?'
'I am sure something is compatible about them.'
Please don't look at me like that.
Why would you re-enact something like that?
But they do say it like that.
Looking at me like that.
Let me ask the young people. Is it important?
[What]
[What Should]
[What Should I]
[What Should I Say?]
[Awkwardness that freezes time.]
So the reason why you decided to marry is...
Let me ask you this way.
Everything is perfect except for the 'inner-compatibility.' Can you still be in love?
- Kyung Ho, tell me. - Isn't it important for adults?
To be honest, for adults... it would be good to have that compatibility, right?
Do... you...
Did you... before you married her...
I stayed with her two months before... I married her.
We stayed together two months before our wedding.
So we lived together.
Wouldn't it difficult if you feel it's incompatible?
The most important thing is your character.
[Platonic Dong Yup]
You know, he is the TV personality with the best character in the nation.
[You do feel awkward, right?]
His acting job was so...
'Because of the kind of compatibility you cannot let go.'
Martial compatibility. Inner-compatibility.
Let's check the answer.
[Out of ranking]
Nobody even brought it up in the surveys.
What holds women back from ending a relationship?
Let's say she loves him so much but
he has a fatal flaw.
I really hate it when someone tells me even the smallest lies.
When I thought he wouldn't lie anymore, he lied, when I thought he wouldn't lie, he lies again.
I didn't break up because I was hoping that he would change.
'He will change soon.'
- It sounds like sympathy. - It is. She can't let him go.
What kind of lies?
When it comes to men, it's almost always about drinking and women, right?
- But-- - You don't get obsessive about it, right?
- No, I don't. - So why would he lie?
A man has a friend that he hangs out with, right?
When he does things out of his circle, he either gets teased or insulted because of it, right?
One day, he told me he's going to eat roasted pork belly with his friends.
But I could hear that he was talking in a bathroom.
Didn't it sound like a restaurant?
It sounds like a bathroom that's in a pub, right?
I could hear people around him.
'It's strange. It sounds like you're in a bathroom. Why is that?' I asked him.
'Oh, the bathroom is right beside our table,' he said.
'Which restaurant did you go to?' I asked him.
He told me where the restaurant is.
But I knew which restaurant he was talking about.
'Ah, really?'
- It's sounding obsessive. - She's making me want to lie.
- It's not that. - You don't let it go.
It's not that, if he just told me...
[Incurring men's grievances...]
No, it's not that.
- It is men vs women after all. - Oh, too obsessive.
It's not that. He was trying to make me look like I was acting strange.
I was like, 'It's okay to go to a pub. Don't lie to me. Be honest.'
'You're weird,' and to his friend he said, 'This is driving me crazy. My girlfriend is so weird.'
- Oh my. - 'She doesn't believe me,' he said.
That's why I got angry.
'Are you sure you don't feel bad about anything?'
'I don't feel bad. Why should I? This is just a restaurant' he told me.
'Okay, have fun,' and I hung up.
So I went to the restaurant.
- She went. - See, she went there.
- On my way there-- - Did you disguise yourself?
It's that he has to lie to survive.
No, what I was thinking on my way was...
'Please be there...'
'Please be there eating roast pork belly. I hope I am the one who's acting strange and weird.'
'Please be there,' I thought to myself but he wasn't there.
I felt upset so I called him, 'I am at the restaurant, but I can't find you.'
I felt so sad.
'I can't find you. Where are you?'
He was drinking in the pub beside that restaurant.
- That was mean. - I felt so upset at the way he talked to me.
I feel so stupid and foolish that I just hoped that he would be at that restaurant.
How many men can tell their girlfriends that they are drinking at a pub?
That would be upsetting to hear too.
Being too honest can upset you as well.
I don't think it's easy to tell the truth sometimes.
But I think it's alright if he acts in a trustworthy way.
A reason for lying... I hate lies as well.
When they lie, they don't know trying to avoid something small will haunt them 100 times over.
There are times like this when
men lose the timing to tell the truth about it.
It hurts their pride to tell the truth after that.
- I think that was it. - So when that happens...
I think both parties should give each other a break?
- I think it's necessary... - It's about being wise.
I think men need to be wise as well.
- 'Hello?' - 'I am at a restaurant.'
- 'Really?' - 'I am at a restaurant.'
- 'Really?' - 'I am at a pub...'
- If he handled it like that. - If you do this.
- I can just laugh and forgive. - Because that's cute.
But he says it like this instead
'What?' That's when it becomes worse.
How was he after that?
I went straight home.
I felt so upset and cried myself to sleep.
The next day, he waited all night for me in front of my house.
He came to my house.
He was asking for forgiveness.
- I forgave him like a dummy. - That's what I mean.
I kept on dating him hoping he wouldn't lie next time or the next time or the next time.
It seems like he can change and you know what his strengths are as well.
'Because I hope she can change.'
- Because of that hope. - Because of that hope.
[Pretty]
It's within ranking and fourth place.
'When his/her flaw appears to be changeable.'
It's like, 'He needs me to change that.'
Because you've been with him a while.
It's because you love him.
Men think women don't know about it.
- But they know. - We do.
We know everything.
- Everything... - That's right.
When I was taking some time apart from a girlfriend I went out with for a long time
I was... I wasn't going out with her but I went out to eat with her.
When I got back with my girlfriend
we were talking about things.
'Don't go around and eat meals with the people you don't know,' she said.
'I've never done that. I haven't done that with anybody,' I replied.
'Okay, I see. I'm just saying you shouldn't because you never know what might happen.'
Oh, she knew it.
So I thought, 'How does she...'
'I didn't. I haven't done anything like that,' I told her.
She mentioned the name.
'Her. So I don't want you to do that anymore,' she said.
[Sigh...]
In moments like this, do you acknowledge it? There are men who deny it once more.
- I didn't deny it. - You should say
'Ah, her. Yes!'
That's it.
If you say that, they let it go.
I was like...
[Going straight to self-reflective mode.]
[Things that hold you back when you want to break it up immediately.]
It's time to guess the top answer for women. I think men are more...
I think... men are more...
- I think men are more sophisticated. - Really?
- I think women are simple. - How come?
When I looked at the top answer for women, I thought it's a simple reason for women.
Right!
[It is almost there...]
- A hint might be, 'Olympic?' - 88, Hodolee?
- 400 meters. - Relay?
- Women need someone to pass the baton. - Someone to relay it to.
They don't have the next runner.
Which means they need to finish the race.
- That's it! - That is it, Dae Sung!
So what's the answer?
They don't have the next runner.
It's because they don't have the next runner. That's too much to handle.
Right, right. I think so too!
They don't have a new guy.
Because it's too lonely and hard being alone.
Being alone...
- Let's check the answer! - This has to be it.
[First place for women]
It is the answer.
Yes, it's because they don't have the replacement if they were to end it.
Wow, that scares me.
That is so cruel.
Wait, 1,425 men voted for the answer.
It's a small percentage but 3,882 women voted for their top answer.
That's so cruel.
Men, don't delude yourselves.
The reason why she wouldn't end it when you got so bored in the relationship is
because she doesn't have the replacement yet.
It's not because she likes you.
- You should wake up. - That's so mean.
Then put it this way, 'When you go buy a new pair of shoes, you can't go buy them barefoot.
Ah, that's true.
[I can't believe this...]
[Even if it makes sense...]
[I don't want to believe this...]
This was what I thought.
The boyfriend who lied to you...
you kept it going because you wanted to changed him but...
- you didn't have someone to replace him? - That you didn't have...
No, that wasn't it.
Of course not, if it was so, that would make her look bad.
I am sorry. I am sorry.
You handled it very well.
I got nervous when she was about to answer. Well done...
[Rest of the answers]
[15th for men, 20th for women: Because I bought him/her too many things to end it.]
[29th for women: Psychic told me I will be more miserable with another man.]
[17th for men: Something bad happened to her all of a sudden.]
I recently officiated someone's wedding.
I wanted to ask you about it. How was it?
Having been married for 20 years, I think the most important thing for any couple is
if you seek to understand, then you can get through anything.
But if you seek to misunderstand, no couple can ever last.
I would like you to seek to understand.
Once I started to seek to understand, my husband started to look so charming.
I am regretting that I once misunderstood him.
I think it's important not to expect too much.
Don't expect too much.
They even call it, 'wedding,' right. It's a present progressive, right?
Yes, it ends with '-ing.'
They call it that because it's built day by day.
That's means it's incomplete, right?
Build your happiness today.
[Love begins as something sweet for both men and women but...]
[the end of love hurts as if you are walking barefoot...]
[We fall in love again because of...]
[the power of love]
Are you in the process of ending or starting your love life?
Which ever it is, I envy you who's in love.
On a spring day like today, let us all be loving.
Starting this month, I do my solo concert.
I start a world tour beginning in Korea.
I do a full tour in Japan.
I left After School to be a solo musician. I'll be releasing my own album soon.
Your own album.
Mine is already out and it's been four years since my last one.
I just recently passed through menopause.
[Congratulations]
I'll return to you as a healthy person singing a healthy song for you.
Thank you.